Why You Should Write Love Letters to Yourself: A Heartfelt Practice for Self-Love

Hey there, you beautiful soul!

I want to share with you one of my favorite self-care practices, bear with me, it may feel a little radical or weird, but is oh-so-important for our well-being: writing love letters to ourselves. Stick with me...I know what you might be thinking—“Love letters? To MYSELF? who even writes letters these days??” Yes, love letters..*to you.* I get it, it sounds weird at first but letter writing is a beautiful art that we can reclaim and using it as an act of self-care makes it even more valuable! I'm not suggesting this as some fluffy trend. It’s a genuine, heart-centered practice that can make a huge difference in how we see ourselves and the world around us.

Think about it, words have power. What we say to ourselves can either build us up or tear us down. So, why not use our words to speak love, kindness, and encouragement to the one person who truly needs it the most—ourselves?

I promise you writing love letters to yourself isn't just a nice idea, its an easy and efficient way to nourish your soul. It's a good habit to have would be a fantastic addiction to your existing self-care routine. If you don't have a self- care routine, then this is a great jump off point. Here are 5 reasons why:

1. There's no better love than self-love

Don't let anyone convince you that loving on yourself or loving yourself first is selfish. No ma'am. Loving yourself is not selfish, it's necessary. It is the very thing that allows you present your authentic self to the world, love and support others, and feel fulfilled in your life.

So, when we take a few minutes to write a love letter to ourselves, we're essentially drilling into ourselves that we are worthy of love just as we are - it is the greatest affirmation. This is something we can do ourselves, we don't need the affirmations to come from outside of us when it's already inside of us. Writing a love letter is like your heart sending a message to your soul reminding yourself of your worthiness and the beauty that is you

2. Show Gratitude For Who You Are, Just As You Are, Right Now

It’s so easy to recognize and harp on all the things we want to change about ourselves. We have these endless lists of “I’ll be happy when…” or “I’ll love myself more when…” But, real talk: there’s no perfect version of yourself waiting at some finish line. You are worthy right now, in this very moment. And a love letter to yourself can remind you that you’ve grown, that you’ve done your best, and that you’re exactly where you need to be in this season of your life.

3. Creates A Safe Space

Sadly, sometimes, we’re not kind to ourselves. We judge ourselves for not doing enough, for not being enough, for not having enough or for past mistakes. Writing a love letter is a way to create a safe, non-judgmental space to pour out your heart. A place where you can be completely raw, honest, and open. You get to express all the emotions, the fears, and the dreams that maybe you haven’t fully acknowledged or let go.

There’s something incredibly healing about putting those thoughts on paper, allowing yourself to be vulnerable with no filters. And the best part? It doesn't need to be perfect. You don't have to be a poetic or a NY Times best selling author. you just needs to be real—because in that realness, healing can be found.

4. Reminds You That You Are Strong And Capable

We all know how easy it is to get lost in the hustle and bustle of life. We can become so focused on our to-do lists, our responsibilities, and all the things we think we should be doing that we forget just how strong, resilient, and capable we are.

Writing a love letter to yourself allows you to reflect on your strengths. When you take a moment to acknowledge everything you’ve overcome, the courage it took to get through tough times, and the qualities you admire in yourself, it's powerful. Those kinds of powerful affirmations are reminders that you have everything you need within you.

5. It Feels Amazing

Simply put, writing love letters to yourself feels amazing. There’s something so comforting about giving yourself permission to feel loved, cherished, and supported by the most important person in your life—you. When you’re kind to yourself, when you speak words of love, it shifts your mindset, your energy, and your whole outlook on life. And we all need some of that good energy!

All of that sounds wonderful right? Ok, so jump in!

Okay, lets get into it. Now that we’re all on the same page about how awesome this practice is, let’s do it!. Here are a few of my favorite simple tips:

Set the mood: Although technically, you can do this like Janet Jackson (Anytime, Anyplace....get it? no? ok...sorry.) It's best to find a quiet, comfortable space where you can quiet your mind and really connect with yourself. Maybe light a candle or make a cup of tea and grab your favorite cozy blanket—whatever helps you feel at relaxed.

Start with “Dear Me" (or feel free to use your name): It might feel a little strange or corny at first, but that’s okay. Push all those judgements aside and just take a deep breath and begin. You can write about anything that’s on your heart. Maybe you want to express gratitude, maybe you need to offer yourself comfort or forgive yourself for something you've been holding on to. Whatever feels right for you!

Be specific and authentic: Don’t hold back. Tell yourself exactly what you need to hear. Whatever it is, let those words flow.

Close with love: End your letter with a simple, loving affirmation. Something like, “I love you, and I’m so proud of you,” or “You are enough.” Let those words linger.

Do it Regularly: The more you do it, the more natural it becomes, and it might even become something you look forward to. Set aside a special journal or get our beautiful and special “Love Letters to Myself” notebook, and use it as a sacred space where you nurture and support yourself.

I'd like to leave you with this final thought: All the love and energy you pour into other you deserve too! You are worthy of love, kindness and encouragement and all of that can (and should) come from within.

Having said all that, it's time to get to it. So, grab that pen, take a deep breath, and start writing a letter to the incredible person you are. Trust me, your future self and present self will thank you.

With so much love and gratitude,